You May Be Experiencing Abuse If…
Domestic violence is not always physical. Many forms of abuse are subtle, gradual, and difficult to recognize—especially when love, family, or faith is involved.
Abuse is a pattern of behavior used to gain power and control over another person. If any of the signs below feel familiar, you are not alone—and help is available.
Common Signs of Domestic Violence
1. Emotional or Psychological Abuse
2. Physical Abuse
3. Verbal Abuse
Hitting, slapping, pushing, choking, or restraining
Blocking exits or preventing you from leaving
Destroying property or personal belongings
Using weapons or objects to intimidate
Constant criticism, insults, or humiliation
Being made to feel worthless, guilty, or "crazy"
Gaslighting (denying events or twisting the truth)
Threats to harm you, themselves, children, or pets
Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse
Physical abuse often escalates over time
Yelling, name-calling, or constant put-downs
Using fear, sarcasm, or threats to control behavior
Publicly embrassing or shaming you
Words can be used as weapons
4. Sexual Abuse
Any sexual contact without consent
Pressure, coercion, or guilt to perform sexual acts
Using sex as a tool for control or punishment
Marriage or a relationship does not mean consent
5. Financial Abuse
Controlling all money or bank statements
Preventing you from working or accessing funds
Forcing you to justify every expense
Creating debt in your name
Financial control can make leaving feel impossible
6. Isolation
Keeping you from family, friends, or church
Monitoring your phone, social media, or whereabouts
Making you feel guilty for spending time with others
Isolation increases dependence and fear
Spiritual Abuse (Often Overlooked)
Faith Should Never Be Used to Control
This may look like:
Being told abuse must be endured to be faithful
Scripture used to excuse control or violence
Fear of judgement from a faith community
Being discouraged from seeking help or safety
At Anchor In Christ, we believe:
God does not support abuse. Faith is meant to heal, not harm.
Why Many Survivors Don't Recognize Abuse Right Away
Abuse often begins slowly
There may be love, apologies, or promises to change
Cultural, family, or faith pressure to stay silent
Fear of not being believed or supported
Recognizing abuse is a process - and it's okay if it takes time.
If this sounds like you
You Are Not Alone
If you recognize these signs in your life or someone you care about, support is available.
Anchor In Christ provides:
Compassionate, judgement - free support
Faith - sensitive guidance
Connections to trusted local and national resources
Your safety matters. Your voice matters. Your life matters.
